A Guide to Self Love
Updated: Jun 29
Image drawn by Lorelei Brooks
I often hear people say "love yourself," as if it is as simple as that. "Love yourself, you're perfect. Love yourself, stop being so unhappy with yourself." Many people like to pretend that their journey in self love was simple. They try to give you advice on how to make it to the place where you can truly love and know yourself. There are a lot of things you can learn from others, for example: how to ride a bike, how to do a backflip, and what love feels like. When it comes to self love, the truth is that no one can teach you how to love yourself. At the end of the day, it's your own journey.
So what is the point of me telling you this? Although I can't teach you how to love yourself, I can tell you about what my journey of self love has looked like so far. There were people in my life who broke me down, and I'm sure there will be more. However, no one was ever as cruel to me as I was to myself. We accept the love we think we deserve, and when I felt like I had no worth, I let others treat me the same way.
I understand how hard it is starting your journey of self love, especially when it feels like you don't even know who you are. I've spent months trying to find out who I am, and I've come far. I've learned that I was put on this earth to listen to good music, wear baggy jeans, and make people laugh. I'm still figuring out the rest of myself, and when I think about it, I don't know anyone who really knows who they are. I believe that's something you find out as you go along. Just keep waiting and finding yourself, and you will level up and become a better version of yourself as you grow.
It's amazing having people in your life who support you and make you feel like you have a place in the world. Despite this, they can't be with you all the time. Phone calls come to an end, plans get cut short, and people have lives to tend to. Depending on others for your happiness works when you are with them, but then they leave, and yet again, you are left alone. This is another reason self love is so important- you can distract yourself for a small amount of time, but all roads lead back to time spent with yourself.
I like to think back on the times when I picked myself up off the floor, and of the many times I treated myself with kindness. Through my journey of self love so far, I have learned that I can't give up on myself. So please, promise me you won't give up on yourself either. Even when you are sobbing on your bathroom floor and it feels like the world is going to stop turning, you can't give up. It's not always easy to do what's best for yourself. However, at the end of the day- you are the only one who stayed. You are the only one who has been a shoulder to cry on, and that will continue to be true. I hope you can find it within yourself to keep trying, and I know that one day, it will be easy for you to love yourself.
-Lorelei, Artistic Director :)